A Simple Theory

How many management decisions have you made all on your own? Do you seek the advice of others? Are you a trial-by-error type of manager? If you were able to answer any of these questions quickly in your mind, then you probably have a management philosophy. If you struggled to answer one and over thought the questions, then hopefully you are on your way to discovery. Don’t worry, it takes time. A lot of time.

 I am sure you were able to think of a name, past or present, to compare yourself to. I know I do. These answers helped shape how I have lead teams over the years. Many trial-and-error examples of leadership have shaped my development, some were awful and others mentor quality. All have encouraged me to find my own path to leadership and business success. 

There are the my-way-or-the-highway types. In the moment, you might believe they suck to work for, but after thinking about their strategy, you must realize they get it done. Their approach, well not admirable, it does have its advantages; to give teams a sense of urgency. This manager tells you exactly how it needs to be done without opening it up for discussion. They micro-manage you all the way through a project and will almost always take the credit for its successes (not the failure). This is called authoritarian theory. It is usually pushed as a hard deadline and it normally takes no prisoners in its efforts. 

Get it done. Do it their way. Move on. NEXT!!!! Many new managers take on this position because they don’t know any other way to define themselves as a manager. It is also used in managing those with time management struggles. It is tough, but it works. It may kill morale and it may make people not want to work for you. It will, however, help you with conflict resolution and insubordination. Two qualities needed in a strong manager.

Moving on.

In my experience, a democratic or laissez-faire style of leadership works best. At least it did for me. After spending most of my life running stores and maintaining strong tenure in teams, I found that those with strong knowledge, skills and abilities (KSA’s) in their roles are often the best. A no brainer, right? They are highly productive and share a willingness to make the overall success of a store a priority. They can be employees you mentored from part time or hired up externally. When this type of management team is at its best, the business runs itself. It’s magic and allows you the opportunity to work on things that really matter…your people. Which in turn builds on their KSA’s. See how this works?

It never happens overnight. It really takes time to discover the right people that will define the business. It takes initiative and a strong work ethic to build on relationships and build trust. It takes conviction and foresight to know what their end results will be. They must believe in your purpose, understand the why’s of difficult conversations and be willing to mold into the employee you encourage them to be. When this happens, it gives you the opportunity to involve them in the overall decision-making process. You encourage their feedback, you value their opinions and seek it out. This becomes part of your leadership style. It not only encourages growth in your people, but helps you define the type of leader who want to become. You will be building a reputation and gaining a level of respect with your team and peers. A win-win. It makes all the hard work worthwhile. A true democratic leader will put their people on a pedestal by showing the entire team as to why the store is successful. The goal is to watch them grow, develop others in your style and so on and so on.

Defining the type of leader you want to become takes a lot of practice, trials and tribulations and turn over. You will, however, grow with each experience. After all, isn’t that the whole point? If you aren’t re-discovering yourself as a leader with each new employee, then why are you managing people in the first place? Just a thought….

Elephant In The Room

How do we get over the stigmatism of “bad manager”? I have heard so many people say they quit their jobs due to poor management. This makes me so mad because it is easy to be a good manager. Everyone has differing opinions on the matter. What I have heard as reasons for employees leaving good companies is the following:

“They never listened to me.”

“They always scheduled me outside my availability.”

“They never worked on the sales floor.”

“They were always gossiping.”

“They treated me like dirt.”

I am not saying that I was a perfect manager, I had my faults too, but I did respect my people for their hard work. Is it really that hard to hold a conversation with someone nowadays? I am hearing it is. So why do managers struggle? 

Laziness. Yep, I said it!

When employees move up the ranks to become “the boss”, they often forget how they got there and what it was like to fight the battle. It is not leadership to reach the next rung of a ladder and treat your people the way you hated to be treated. Leadership, or should I say, positive leadership, means you need to embrace the good fight and nurture those around you to be the best versions of themselves. It takes a lot of work. You have to pick and choose your battles. Taking a break when you get to the top shouldn’t be in the cards. You should never feel comfortable.

Oftentimes when we are managing our businesses, we put tasks ahead of common sense. What do I mean by that? We always have a typical week that is full of processes, tb’s with upper level management and to do lists that seem never-ending. Why is it that you can’t make your people part of the lists? Seems pretty simple…My favorite part of the day, even when I was on empty from working crazy hours, was my impromptu one-on-ones with my people. They may never have known how much hearing about their day was important to me, but it was always a motivating force that I held close to my heart. It kept me going. 

Running a business is hard. It takes mad skills to not feel like you failed in some way. Why would you ever want to hear that the one thing you truly failed at was your people? It doesn’t matter if your business is hitting double-digit comps or your store is visually inspiring if your people keep leaving! Your people are the most important part. They are the reputation of not only your business in the community, but the brand image and reflection of you as manager or business owner. It is important to address these issues with your team. Usually, you will have a gut feeling. If you have never felt that feeling, then there are other things to address within yourself. No one is the perfect boss. Don’t ever think you are, but you should always inspire to be one.

O Mentor, My Mentor

Over the years, I have experienced a cornucopia of managerial philosophies, store cultures and corporate communication styles. Some of these experiences far exceeded expectations and others…well…forced me to second guess what I was doing in retail. Like many of you, I decided to stick with it. I persevered by challenging myself and watching people around me feel empowered to become leaders themselves.

As the years went by and I worked for several different companies, I always wanted to write a book or teach about real life in a store. I have developed some crazy approaches to managing people and situations through a lot of trial and error. I wanted to be the best and lead by example. I wanted those less experienced than myself to be better and more talented. I wanted them to be more aware and develop a strong work ethic.

There weren’t any blogs or the internet to go to for help when I was starting out. I only had the reference of people, trade magazines and books. I can count on one hand how many mentors I have had over the last 27 years. Some were leaders of industry like Kathy Bronstein. I idolized her. She was one of the few female CEO’s in retail during the nineties. Mr. Lamb, my college advisor. He pushed me to be better and challenged my approach to learning. My boss throughout my career with Gap. We called her JDL. She was the strongest woman other than my mother I knew at the time. Her approach to managing was incredibly refreshing. She got to know those who worked for her and valued everyone’s opinions.

Lastly, there is Leann. I don’t think I would be the woman I am today without her. I had the pleasure of working for her on two different occasions and in two different roles. She taught me a lot of things. Many of which, you will learn if we continue-on this adventure together. Just know everyone needs a Leann in their life. She truly believed in me. A powerful statement when you think about what it means. Leann let me be me and pushed me to have faith in my abilities and not second guess myself. Sometimes she would make me so mad, but it all had a purpose. She knew what I could do when I didn’t. That, my friends, is a mentor.

I think that managers and business owners today have forgotten how to communicate. I’ve seen huge divides in approach and accountability. I want to bring that back. In-this-day-and-age leadership is even more valuable. If you don’t have a strong one to look up to…you wing it. Let’s find out what you can do together.